"'This is the best definition of love that we've heard yet. Love is when BOTH of you think you're "dating up".""
In other words, you feel as though you're getting someone better than you deserve. You think you're getting away with something.
Or, as Artie Shaw was quoted as saying, "Love is an agreement between two people to overestimate each other." Brilliant.
But it ABSOLUTELY has to be mutual.
We can't stress this enough. And the only way to tell is through actions. Are they acting like they wouldn't rather be anywhere besides with you?
This is the basis of respect and it's the only thing that will keep a relationship together the next time some 19-year-old with tight buns smiles at one of you.
Love isn't the romantic crap they spout on TV-movies or in Romance novels. Because no one can read your mind well enough to provide that. Love is a partnership with sex thrown in for fun.
Love is not about "completing" someone.
It's not a healthy relationship unless both of you are fully formed, well-adjusted adults already. And it's not about "needs". It's about "wants". If you really need someone, maybe you're a little too desperate and should seek serious counseling. Wanting someone is a conscious decision. It's selfish, but in a healthy way.
Just don't kid yourself that you're in love when you're not sure the other person feels the same way. If they do, you might be. If they don't, you aren't.
You'll recognize Love because it will be unlike anything you've ever experienced. That's why people say, you'll know. Because you will. (You must then, by definition, not marry the first person you date or you'll have no basis for comparison...)
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